Memorial created 03-17-2008 by
Matthew Joseph Rhoads
September 24 1978 - February 29 2008
You were more than just our hero!
This online memorial was created in loving memory of Matthew Rhoads, whose life story is told throughout this memorial website. Please sign Matthew's guest book and let us know you came to visit. We will remember Matthew forever.
If we could bring you back again, for an hour or one more day,
We'd express all of our unspoken love, and have countless things to say
If we could bring you home today, we'd tell you that we treasured you,
Your presence in our lives, meant more than anyone knew
You tried so hard for the ones you loved, and turned your back to none,
We miss you now, our hearts are sore, as time goes by we miss you more
Your loving smile and your gentle face, noone can fill your vacant place
Your life was love and labor, your love for your family true,
You did your best for all of us, we will forever love and remember you
Matt was more than our brother, an uncle to our children, or even a son to our parents, he was a great friend. Someone you could count on to help you up when you were down, someone to make you laugh when you tried so hard not to, someone to cheer you up when you felt like the whole world was against you.
It was the morning of March 2, 2008, I awoke and took my oldest daughter to school and had just arrived home, like I do every other day. Little did I know this would be more like a nightmare. As I just walked in the door, my phone was ringing and I didn't bother to answer because I wanted to get the kids settled and whoever it was I would call back later but when the phone just kept ringing, one right after the other I knew it had to be something pretty important. My fiance was calling I answered the phone with a "yeah what" and he said "are you sitting" I told him to just come on already what did he want and out came the worst words ever Jenn, it's Matt he's gone, I was like "what yeah I know he will be back this weekend" and he said "no jenn they found him in his room this morning, he's dead". I dropped to the floor and could do nothing but say "no, what the hell is going on". I hung up the phone and it rang again my sister was on the phone and I said "Age please tell me he's lying this can't be happening not again, we just lost John, we can't do this again, not him". I called my mom to find out what happened I just couldn't believe that he wouldn't be coming home or just to come to grips with the fact that I wouldn't be able to see his beautiful smile again. I asked my sister what happened but they had no idea either they had just gotten the news and the Army was giving them no answers either. All they told us was they seen him Friday and found him dead in his room Monday. All I could think was why didn't anyone notice him gone? Why didn't anyone who was suppose to be his friends check on him after not seeing him all weekend? The irony of it all is I tried to call him all weekend and just assumed he was busy so sunday night I left him a message " Matt, it's Jenn, your supposed favorite sister that you never call back, if you don't answer me by Monday I'm driving down there and kicking your ass, Love Ya Fat Pig". He never got to hear my message and he never answered the phone for me the whole weekend I called him, which was kinda crazy to me, they tell us he passed sunday night but the way his body was found leads us to believe he passed Friday night, the army still gives us no answers, more questions if anything, we still till this day have no cause of death. So basically our perfectly healthy, 29 years old, life of the party brother who was just home the weekend before, just died out of nowhere. It has been a month and a half and still nothing we buried him with no brain or heart just because they wanted to run test because they ruled out murder, suicide, overdose, everything you could possibly think of. So now we sit here wondering what happened. Will we ever know did someone cause him harm. It just really sucks because he spent so much of his life unhappy and lost and he finally found his way, he loved the army, he loved his neices and nephews he was coming home more and more often we got so spend alot more time with him, and he finally found the girl, the one he wanted to spend the rest of his life with and he was truely happy for once. So why god why now did you have to take him from us now?
MATT WE LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU DEARLY, YOU WERE A HERO LONG BEFORE YOU JOINED THE ARMY, REST SAFE MY BROTHER!
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